
I know what it’s like to look for other people to love me, instead of me loving myself.
My story.
I grew up in a world of dependency, abuse, fear and loneliness. In my family of origin, nobody was talking about their true feelings. I felt like I couldn’t express myself and felt like nobody cared for me or was interested in my happiness. I felt criticized because I was different. It made me independent, I studied and I found more healthy people for me.
I discovered a world of psychology, healing and spirituality when I was offered my first spiritual book from Lise Bourbeau making a sense of the diseases as linked to emotional and mental blocks or old beliefs that no longer serves us. That's when I first realized I could heal myself! I was fascinated.
However I was still in a pattern of pleasing people so they would love me, until I burned out. I was unconsciously trying to please my distant father by buying my first home. This meant success to him. He had the limiting belief "I am nothing as a man if I don't own my home" (which I had too!)
At this time, I was grateful to meet my mentor. He offered me a position to work with him and helped me realize that I have value even if I "do nothing". Indeed after my burnout, I couldn’t “do” much. I learn to be and and feel more. Meeting him helped me believe in myself. I could for the first time tell my story, talk about my emotions, he listened empathetically, and took the time to help me build myself up. I could let go of my need to prove myself. I started to feel joy in life following what I want to do and not what other wanted.
At this time, I also discovered the world of angels and connected to them through angel oracle cards. These spirits would be loving and gentle. I was fascinated by this magical world and I wanted to know all about this place of unconditional love. I learned to feel and open up my heart again.
In this journey, I realized who the healthy people were for me. I learned to let go of people that I felt were not healthy for me anymore. Most of them were in my family, some in my circle of friends others were spiritual teachers that I felt had taught me enough. I also discovered what actions and situations were healthy for me and removed myself from the unhealthy ones.
During my uncertain times, I was bothered by my inner critical voice and had a test of faith from some skeptics. It helped me take responsibility for my life including how I see the world. I realized I prefer to believe in a loving world with angels in it, otherwise how would I heal and who would I give my burdens to ?
I started to feel that I wasn't helping people feel better in the job I felt trapped in. I didn't feel I was participating in helping the planet and the people in it to heal. I felt like I didn't belong in the stressful corporate world anymore.
On my journey I gained freedom of my thoughts. My imagination could help me create a better world for myself and for others. By looking inside, how my inner child felt I developed compassion, respect, creativity, centering on my loving heart and an open mind for whatever my inner child has been through. I realized by connecting with other people that they felt similar feelings. I would have as well the vision of a world of cooperation where people would work on themselves to find peace, and I would be a part of that by coaching them to feel valued, loved and autonomous and most importantly find their unique selves in their hearts, the way I found my own self.
To help me come back to the ordinary world, playing video games helped me, and are like spiritual journeys I would do in meditation. It made me realize that the normal world could be magical too.
So when I lost my job it was the opportunity for me to do what I love and start what I really wanted, coach people and help them feel better about themselves. I was seeking for me all along. I'm excited to help others know themselves better, and have that self-realization. Your world can be magical too!