What is aggressiveness ?

Aggressiveness is when someone violate someone’s personal space and does things that are really physically traumatic.

Most of the time this is emotional and psychological aggression : someone verbally abuses you, cursing at you, yelling at you, telling you things like there is something wrong with you or that you’re a bad person. Sometimes even threatening you. Sounds familiar?

THIS IS ABUSE! This is not ok!

Verbal abuse actually leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. The body can mend. But that inner voice that is telling you that you are not good enough, don’t even try?! That voice stays for long long time as an adult.

Until we adress it : That is not the truth. These people that told you those things HAD A PROBLEM.

You ARE good enough. You are worthy of love.

Aggressiveness happens when people are out of their minds, they are wounded, probably intoxicated on medication, drugs, alcool. Most aggressiveness comes from FEAR : the persons is afraid that their needs won’t be met unless they use extreme measures.

Certified Assertiveness Coach - Doreen Virtue.